It has been proven in many psychology studies that self-compassion is extremely important for mental health and well-being, keeping depression and anxiety under control and away from us. The famous happiness lecturer and researcher, prof. Raj Raghunathan from McCombs School of Business at the University of Texas, advises that when things are not going well, we should practise self-compassion and when things are going well, we should practise gratitude. To practise self-compassion means not to be hard on ourselves about what we did wrong, but to imagine how we would console a friend of ours if he or she would happen to be in a situation like ours and to change our mental talk accordingly.
Let’s do a Self-compassion exercise. It involves treating ourselves as we would a good friend or relative after they have failed to achieve something, or failed to live up to an ideal. That is, it involves treating yourself with kindness and compassion after a failure.